Sometimes I'm tempted to comment, but I don't because it's not really my place. If someone is making ignorant decisions, and has people to cheer them on in their ignorance, my little comment isn't going to make a difference. And like I said, I really don't feel it's my place. Sometimes I wish I was friends with blog writers, and could actually call them up and enlighten them.
To avoid being endlessly frustrated, I've decided to stick with a few of my favorite message boards. Boards that are chock full of people who believe the same things I do, and who I can vent to. One is the natural childbirth board at justmommies.com, and another is mothering.com. They are both great sources of information, but more importantly, support. The internet really is a fabulous thing, because I only have one friend in real life who thinks like me about alot of things. Mainly pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting. Support is great, and sometimes crucial when the things I choose to believe and practice aren't mainstream. If you surf the net long enough, I guarantee you can find a group of people to support whatever your current passion or interest is.
I have two more nights of work, and I'm ready for them to be over. I'm honestly not ready to leave my job, or Charlotte, but I am ready to be done working nights. Not my thing, and these two months have reminded me of that. We move next Tuesday. I'm not sure whether to cry or try to be excited. When it comes down to it, I HAVE to try and be excited. I've got to give living in Florence a fair shot. Eric is, so I have to too. I think the summers will be easier, since it's then we'll take advantage of being close to the ocean and lake. I'm sure this first winter will be the hardest. Give me strength, because I'm sure gonna need it........
7 comments:
I hope the move goes smoothly!!!! I know how stressful it can be...
Nicki- everyone is tired of your whining about your family moving to Florence. If you don't want to move, then don't. In fact, the group of women that keep up with your blog at my place of employment took a vote today at lunch 11-0 for you to keep your butt in Charlotte. We are sick of YOUR ignorant ideas and thoughts. You are completely out of touch with reality and we were personally glad that Kim put you in your place- I laugh at the fact that you claim you are not belittling others parenting styles.
There are many other things I could blast you on but I'm sure you are just going to delete this.
To anonymous- if you and your coworkers are sick of my "ignorant ideas and thoughts", then QUIT READING MY BLOG. If you and your coworkers want to pay off the debt that we'll eliminate by moving to Florence, we'd be happy to keep our butts here in Charlotte. Feel free to mail the check to me directly.
I personally believe that those who feel "belittled" by what I choose for my family, are simply feeling guilty about their own shitty parenting decisions. So go ahead, blast and flame away. And while you're at it, quit being a cowardly bitch and posting anonymously.
And the random chicken-shit anonymous poster appears. I'm always amazed that people just post crap like that when they would never say it in person....maybe thats a clue dumbass to keep your mouth shut!
"I personally believe that those who feel "belittled" by what I choose for my family, are simply feeling guilty about their own shitty parenting decisions."--I'm 100% right there with you!
Anyway nicki--I hope your move goes smoothly!
Okay, here’s the thing…I don’t agree with a lot of what you post. In fact, a lot of it makes me angry. However, I am not going to be rude, just matter-of-fact. If you read the comment from “Anonymous” she does not actually say that she feels belittled by you. I do not feel belittled by what you say one single bit, but I do feel that you are trying to belittle those of us who choose to raise our children in a more traditional way. You choose to be “granola” and that is completely your choice, just as it is my choice to raise my children in the way that I think is best.
I am not a perfect parent, and I am sure you are not either. We are all doing the best that we can to raise our children using our own ideals and beliefs. I personally disagree with your ideas about vaccinations. I know there are studies that might potentially link vaccinations to Autism. It’s scary, I get it. What scares me more is my children contracting a potentially fatal disease, which could be easily prevented.
You offended me in your posting about voluntary sections and inductions. I had an induction with Baby #1 because he was 9 (!!!) days late. Since then I have had 2 voluntary inductions. That was my choice and I have no regrets. I also chose to have an epidural all 3 times. I am the first to admit that I am a big weinie when it comes to pain. I also don’t claim that I gave birth “naturally” but “vaginally.”
I chose to give all 3 of my children solids before 6 months. Yes, there are studies that say that may be harmful, but there are also studies that show that waiting longer than 6 months to start solids can be harmful.
As far as your move back to Florence goes, I know and understand that there are things that you will miss about Charlotte. I also understand why you are moving back. We moved “home” to Florence when my oldest was a year old to be near family. What upsets and offends some people (myself included) is that you seem to be absolutely dreading moving here, as if it is a horrible place to live. This is our home, and many of us love it here. (BTW, I would recommend www.theflossip.com for fun things to do in Florence.)
My point is this…your opinion is your opinion and my opinion is my opinion. You are right that I don’t have to read your blog. I enjoy reading other people’s opinions, but not when I feel I am being looked down on for my way of doing things. Somehow it is like a train wreck that I can’t look away from. I hope that you can take this for what it is…an attempt at adult debate and discussion. And now I will step down from my soapbox.
Ashley, I appreciate and welcome your comments, since it's obvious they truly are written for adult discussion/debate. I've deleted many comments from "Angie", including one where she accuses me of belittling anyone who doesn't think like I do. I now delete her comments because she has resorted to insulting my appearance, intelligence, and even my money management skills. Your type of comment is welcome, her type is not. That's why yours will get published, and hers won't.
Vaccinations are always such a debatable subject. And people tend to feel VERY strongly, no matter what camp they fall into. That's why I've said in my blog before, that it's truly something each mom needs to research and decide for herself. I'm not even sure if I believe that there is a true link to autism. What I am sure of, is that I don't believe Drake's little body should have to fight off SIX diseases at one time and build immunity at once. That's why we space them out, not because I believe some conspiracy theory about autism. That, and because if he is unfortunate enough to have a reaction, then I'll know not to repeat that particular vaccine again. If he had all of the vaccines suggested, it would just be a guessing game to try and decide what he reacted to. I don't want to go through that.
If you aren't one of the people calling your birth natural, then my irritation isn't with you. But I will still continue to get frustrated with other people using improper terminology. And, I will continue to correct them. I commend the fact that you went nine days over with your first child. Seriously, that's amazing. I would have really start getting nervous at 41 weeks. And I most certainly would have gone forward with an induction. (Medically indicated inductions aren't the ones that frustrate me). But since that involves pitocin, I'm sure I would've ended up with an epidural. I'm lucky to be one of those freak women who has the baby two weeks early, and in record time for a first time mommy. Those things most certainly contributed to me getting the natural birth I wanted.
What pisses me off about elective sections and inductions is CHOICE. It's all about choice. Women can choose elective sections and inductions all the day long, but women who go into hospitals and want a natural birth have to FIGHT for it. Fight to stay off the monitor and walk, fight to not have an IV. Fight to keep the lights dim, fight to push in any position other than stirrups. I want a waterbirth for my next child. But I don't have that CHOICE unless I stay at home. It's not fair, and that's what it's really all about. I actually have been thinking about writing a blog post about this very subject, so maybe you'll see it once we are settled in our new home.
If you've followed my blog for awhile, then you've probably read how I've made alot of choices because of research I've read. But, I've pointed out that for every research study that supports what I do/believe, there is one that disputes it. Maybe that's one reason parenting is so hard sometimes; we never know quite what to believe.
Thanks for the suggestion on the website. I don't dread moving back to Florence. If I did, then we wouldn't be going through with it. I'm excited in many ways, but I always will have reservations. When we first started considering the move, I asked my friend in Florence what her and her husband (and kids) did for fun. She said they did alot of grilling out and hanging out with friends on the deck, and just having get-togethers. I laughed, because that's pretty much exactly what we do in Charlotte. Especially now since Drake has come along. The more things change, the more they stay the same.
The thing that is unfortunate about a blog (as much as I love them), is that you don't get to hear the tone of a persons voice, or see facial expressions. So, we have to base judgements only on what we read. And often, as I've discovered, people get the wrong idea. Or feel belittled, or that I'm looking down on another's way of doing things. While that isn't the case, I do think it's unfortunate. To each their own; that's one of my favorite quotes. Maybe that should be the name of my blog!
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