Movies

I've seen three movies in the past month.......I'm trying to make up for all the ones I know I won't be seeing in the next year. 4 Christmases was good, typical comedy for Reese Witherspoon and Vince Vaughn. On Christmas Day, we set out to see Marley and Me, but it was sold out everywhere. We ended up seeing Seven Pounds with Will Smith and Rosario Dawson. I really just cannot say enough about this movie. I think everyone should go out and see it tomorrow! It was intriguing and capitivating; I don't say that about many movies. You really have to pay attention though- there are alot of things you'll miss otherwise. One thing that was really interesting about it, is that you never really know what exactly the movie is about. There are so many unanswered questions the whole way through. GREAT movie- Go see it!

Today I went and saw Marley and Me with my girlfriends Jill and Melissa. We bawled our eyes out! It was so good, and an honest look at a family's life with their dog. I came home and gave both of my dogs a big ol hug. I love my doggies. I know they will take the back seat once Shim arrives, but I sure do love them. They are both awesome. I've included a fabulous photo of them from last Halloween. (The time of year explains sweet Linus's mohawk)

Motivated

I woke up this morning all excited for a nice long walk with the dogs....and it's raining! BOO! I wanted to go walking and try to get his labor going....... maybe the YMCA is in order later? I bet it would actually feel good to go swimming. I do love the hottub after all, and the Y has a nice heated pool. Eric actually goes swimming a couple of times a week, but in the cold lap pool. Brr, I'm not going in there. We are about as ready as we can get for this little guy. I'm not miserable being pregnant as much as I'm just over this phase. It's been over 37 weeks now, and I'm simply ready to meet the Shimmeister. I'm ready to meet him and see what he looks like, and finally give him a name. Poor nameless child. I'm also eating pineapple for breakfast. Supposedly softens the cervix or something. I'll try about anything. It's ON starting Jan 1- I'll pull out the big guns then. Anyone else got any good tips to induce labor naturally? I may completely against medical induction (except for a legit medical reason), but I'm all about natural induction techniques.

Merry Christmas!!!

Happy Holidays from Eric and myself! Hopefully you will get to have a holiday as relaxing as ours. We are just chilling out at home, enjoying each others company before a new addition. I work this evening, and he's going to dinner with all of our friends that are still in town. I'm going to meet them when I get off to drive them all home:-) Tomorrow we're going to see Marley and Me with our friends, and maybe my brother and SIL. They are coming to town at some point in the next couple days, just not sure when yet. It'll be fun to see them and show them Shim's nursery!

I had my almost 37 week appt today (36 and five days). I was expecting to see Tina, but actually got to see the newest and fifth midwife. Her name is Gannon, and I really liked her. I was happy to meet her now, rather than taking the chance of meeting the first time when I'm delivering. She seemed sweet and smart, and already knew from my chart what my birthing wishes were. We talked about my birth plan a little, and she seemed very supportive. I think I have them all on board now! It was a little stressful making sure I had gone over my birth plan with all five of them. Just please don't let me deliver on a weekend with an OB who has no clue what my plan is.....or worse yet, isn't supportive. I'm thinking positive thoughts.....a weekday delivery!!! I love my midwives, and apparently all the other pts do to, b/c they are BOOKED. The practice now has 8 OB's and 5 midwives. My weight gain is up to 18 pounds, and my BP was fabulous. My urine this week looked much better since I didn't eat a ginormous bowl of oatmeal with sugar for breakfast. What a difference that makes!

Again, have a wonderful Christmas!

You know you're 9 months pregnant when you are too tired to go get a mani/pedi. I came home for a nap instead! I did pick out Shim's birth announcements today, and I just love them! For those who know me well, you know how obsessed with invitations and stationary I am. I am at my happiest in a really good store that has a big selection of all those wonderful things. They let me bring the envelopes home so I can get a head start on the addressing. Thank goodness! I also picked out a really cute invite for my SIL Bridget's baby shower. Yay for another shower, this time with lots of pink!

I'm spending a nice chill weekend at home, and I'm not cleaning! I want to, but I'm controlling those urges with naps. Eric promised he'd mop and vacuum, so we'll see. I'm having to force myself to relax, but it's honestly what I need at this stage in the game. Otherwise, I'm going to end up with a Christmas baby instead of a January baby. Have a good weekend!

36 Weeks

Today is finally the 36 week mark! It's crazy to think that Shim could come anytime, although I really don't think he'll be here until after 41 weeks. I'm sure I'll be overdue.....

He was for sure head down at my appointment Wednesday, and I'm happy as a lark. My BP looked good, and my weight gain is up to 17 pounds. It's funny that it's only 17, b/c my belly sticks out a mile. Jan (my midwife wednesday) said she doesn't think he's a very big baby. He shouldn't be, because Eric and I were both 6 pounders. Plus, we're simply not very big adults either. I'm hoping between 6 lbs and 7 1/2. That's a nice weight!

Clean....

My yard is clean and my house is clean. Shim is welcome to come anytime now. Come on out little man!

Grilled cheese

We have no food in our house, and our shopping day isn't until Friday. So, I managed to piece together some bread and cheese. I just ate FOUR grilled cheese sandwiches. I simply wasn't full after 2 sandwiches. So I cooked two more. And as crazy as this sounds, I'm still hungry. Maybe I'll go eat some pickles now.

About there

I made Eric a nice little list of stuff today, all stuff he needs to finish for Shim. I told him he has until the end of the week, b/c time is passing very quickly. I had the jeep detailed today, so we are ready for car seat installation. That's one of the things on his list. I ordered a PUL bag for the diaper pail, and some stuff called punkin booty bits (people who cloth diaper will understand this). I got two travel foaming bottles, plus the sampler with five different scents. I can't wait until it comes in! The booty bits is essentially something you mix with water, and it makes a solution to put into a spray bottle. You then spray the solution on a wipe for diaper changes. Yes, that means I'm not using disposable wipes either. When you CD, it's easier to use cloth wipes, otherwise you have to have second trash can just for wipes. Plus, I'm all neurotic about chemicals and the such.

So many people ask me why I've chosen to use cloth diapers. There are a variety of reasons, and it's different for everyone who chooses to CD. My personal reasons consist of three things. Number one, I am much more comfortable with putting cloth next to Shim's bottoms than disposables. There are a lot of chemicals in disposable that I'm just not very comfortable with. For example, in the 1980's the government outlawed a particular chemical in tampons b/c of a high cancer risk. This same chemical is legal and present in current day disposables. I don't want that on Shim. I see alot of abcesses on poor baby butts at work; it's really just crazy. Cloth diapers are SO soft, and you can even buy them in organic fabrics. I figure it has to be more comfortable for my little man.

My second reason for using CD is the tremendous money saving that happens over time. It costs more up front, but in the long run we'll save thousands of dollars. Especially when you CD more than one child. My third reason is the environment. It can take up to 500 years for just one sposie to break down in the landfill.

So, those are my reasons. Most people I know don't think I'll last at CD, and maybe I won't. But as of now, I'm committed....and I've got a really supportive husband. I feel bad for women online who talk about their husbands, mothers, and MIL refusing to put a CD on their baby. I searched for weeks to find a daycare that will take CD, b/c I simply wouldn't have it any other way. My mom is supportive- she's even sewing some diapers for the little man! My MIL is on board as well, and it really helps that my SIL Linds is going to CD as well.

I'm not using a diaper service to wash the diapers. It in my eyes defeats the purpose, since they use harsh and potentially dangerous chemicals and cleaners. I'll be washing here at home, every other day. It'll create alot of work for me, but is worth it in my eyes. We all make sacrifices for our children, and this is simply one I've decided is right for me and my family.

Once the nursery is 100% done, I'll take pics, including the CD stash. We have pics on Tuesday night, and once those are developed and framed, we are done!!! I cannot believe we're almost ready and that he'll be here soon. I feel further along than 34 weeks and 2 days, probably b/c I feel humongous. Oh the joys of the third trimester.

L&D trip

So last night around 9pm, I was laying on the couch and kept having a feeling like I was leaking. After my last appt and lecture from my midwife, I decided to do what they always say, and call them to let them do their job. (I'm always trying to diagnose and treat myself). So of course, the midwife on call says exactly what I don't want to hear; for me to come in and get checked. I was thinking that geez, this is why I don't call.....b/c now it' s 9:30 at night, and I have to be at work by 6:30am.

So, I got my tired self off the couch and drove the five minutes to the maternity center at the hospital, b/c Eric was at his softball game. I didn't feel like waiting for him b/c I just wanted to get home as quickly as possible. Well, they had to do the whole stupid admission workup and paperwork nonsense, so I felt bad for being another overreactive pregnant woman on such a busy night. In any case, they put me in a triage room and hooked me up to monitors, which was another bad idea. I've had Braxton Hicks contractions since I was 21 weeks, so I honestly just have gotten to the point that I ignore how frequent or tight they are. Turns out, mine were 3-5 minutes apart, which she said was way too frequent. That in turn got me an IV, liter of fluid, and shot of terbutaline. The terb stopped the BH after about 10 minutes, but then I was jittery as could be, and Shim was all jacked up and doing flip flops. I'm not a fan of terbutaline!

Shim's FHT looked great the entire time, b/c he's such a little trooper! My MW said my cervix is so high and posterior that she could barely feel it, and it certainly wasn't changing at all. They told me I have the "nurse curse" of working too hard and never drinking enough fluid. Well tell me something I didn't know

So, now I have the whole day off b/c I had called in last night to say I wouldn't be coming in. I was going to play it by ear, but when they said fluids and terb, I went ahead and called in sick. It was a good thing I did b/c I wasn't actually discharged until 1am. I guess I'll just chill on the couch all day.....I'm already bored. I will definitely be packing mine and Shim's hospital bags, I realized last night how completely unprepared we are for the real thing. At least the dry run helped!

There is a foot in my rib. A couple of them actually, and it's becoming quite uncomfortable. I cannot believe there are still just over six weeks to go, b/c I'm quite over this whole pregnancy thing. I'm ready to move on to the newborn thing. His nursery is almost completely done, and it's really cute if I do say so myself. Once it's 100% finished, I'll post some pics.

This weekend I'm going to have my jeep cleaned really well, and install the carseat, window shade, and baby mirror. I guess I should say Eric is going to install......I will just supervise. And maybe, just maybe, I'll put up a Christmas decoration. I won't push it though, I don't want to get too tired. I'm in the middle of working a 6 day stretch, so that's why there are a lack of blog entries to read. This is my last big stretch of working, and after this I'm only gonna do 4 days a week. Time to rest and mentally prepare for this little guy whose foot is in my right lung.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Turkey Day! I hope everyone gobbles til they wobble!

Eric and I are enjoying a nice relaxing day with each other. We are hanging with the dogs, and going to the movies to see Four Christmases. It's nice to not have to travel, and instead just chill out with each other. We are going shopping in the morning to get our new TV, and we're both quite excited!

Shim had his 32 week checkup yesterday, and all looks great. I'll actually be 33 weeks tomorrow. I've gained 15 pounds total, so it looks like I have a chance of making the 25 lb goal. (I really didn't want to go over 25-30). His measurements and FHT were right on target, and I go back in 3 weeks for my group beta strep (GBS) test. Then its EVERY WEEK! I cannot believe I am that close. It's really kinda silly to go so often, especially since I'll refuse internal exams except at 35 and 40 weeks. They don't give much useful information, and they dramatically increase the risk of introducing bacteria and infection. Of course, I'll consent if there is something not right....but otherwise no exams for me. I'd rather not know I'm two cm dilated at 36 weeks......it means nothing and simply makes everyone around you nut-so thinking you'll go into labor soon.

If anyone finds it interesting that a woman can actually make her own choices when it comes to their own pregnancy health, feel free to read "A Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth". It's a very research based book that I love, being in the research based healthcare field. Women need to do research on their health and choices, and not just take everything some healthcare provider says as the law. And not just women!!! Everyone should. Nothing wrong with a little education when it comes to our own bodies and health. I get so frustrated at work when pt's come in, not even sure of what exactly their surgery is. ARE YOU KIDDING? If someone was cutting me open, you'd better believe I'd have done my research. Okay, enough of that soapbox.....not even sure how I got on that one!

One more thing; it turns out Florence (the SC town I'm from) has a fabulous toy store! Lots of natural and wooden toys, and their plastic stuff is BPA/PVC/phthlates free. I'm so excited! It's not a problem for me to find that stuff in Charlotte, but now my mom can finally shop for Shim somewhere other than online. I'm so happy to see that even small southern cities are jumping on the bandwagon to provide safe options for our children.

Now, go eat some Turkey!!!

I love....

I could eat pancakes for every meal right now. I love them. They are my very favorite thing in the world. With butter and syrup. I've now had them for breakfast three days in a row, and I have no intention of stopping. Pancakes are the best.

I also am hooked on a new magazine...."Mothering". It only comes out every other month, and that makes me sad. I wish it came out every other week. It's a "natural family living" magazine...quite granola.

So there you have it...I love pancakes and my new favorite magazine.

Shim nursery photos

The den, AKA disaster Zone, as we got stuff ready to put together.

Shim's pretty crib, with handmade bedding.
Curtain, rocking chair
His stroller and car seat
His swing....it'll swing in both directions.

Weekend showers and Shim's nursery

This past weekend I had two showers in Florence. The first was at my parents church, given by some of the women there. The second was at my cousin Ashlee's, hosted by my aunts, cousins, SIL, and friend Chasity. I unfortunately don't have many pics b/c they are all on Bridget's camera. Eric and I are so lucky to have so many wonderful and supportive people in our lives, that are helping us get ready for Baby Kirsch.

We are mostly ready- there are only a few more select things we need to get to be completely ready. They are all small things though, that we could grab at the last minute if needed. I am so excited to meet him and see what he looks like. We came up with two more potential names today.....this is going to be such a hard decision. We now have three we really like a lot. And no....I'm not sharing. You'll just have to wait and be surprised!

Sunday afternoon my parents came to Charlotte and spent the night, on their way to the mountains for a quick vacation. It worked out perfect, because they were able to bring the rest of our gifts we couldn't fit in the jeep. We went to BRU and picked up the crib. My Mom was determined to see the bedding all put together, and bought the mattress I told her not to. I have a coupon that is valid starting November 30th, so wanted to wait until then. She is out of control; in a humorous grandmotherly way.

Eric and my dad put together the crib, bassinet, swing, and stroller. I could not believe it was all done in one night! It's all so cute, now I just can't wait to have my little man here to put him in it all. Here are some photos of the pandemonium.

What a weekend!

Well, we knew ahead of time that it was going to be quite the weekend, but WOW! We had such a wonderful time, and were very busy. We drove down to Florence Friday afternoon, and got there around 5:30. We got ready and went on the to the Florence Country Club with Davy and Bridget at 7. Let the party begin! Well, except for Bridget and myself. The party was for my grandparents 6oth wedding anniversary, and my parents were one of the couples hosting. It was a night of seeing people I hadn't seen in forever, introducing my adorable hubbie, and just hanging out with family.
Some of the pictures are quite hilarious, and they can all be seen at my mac gallery.
See gallery.mac.com/winternichole
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The most interesting part of the night was driving home my parents, grandparents, great aunt, and little cousin....all in my parents van. That is an experience that I won't soon forget. We'll just say that I was one of the few that hadn't become very close and personal with the bartenders. A sneak peak of some of the pictures is below.

Anniversary Party Photos

My granddad and cousing Claire dancing, while everyone else does the Electric Slide.

My Mom was having a fabulous evening :-)

Seriously....the train.....at a 60th wedding anniversary party? In my family, you'd better believe it. It's not a party until the dancing starts!
Me and my preggo SIL Bridget.....holding on to the babies!
My sweet hubbie kept rubbing my belly to tell Shim Hi.
My wonderful grandparents who have a thing or two to teach about a lasting marriage.
The entire clan
My dad's face is partially covered, but this is our belly contest. I won!
My grandparents dancing.....awww....

31 weeks :-)

I am 31 weeks today! Yesterday I had my 30ish week appt, and all was well. I gained two pounds in two weeks, which is perplexing since I'm on a tremendously high caloric intake right now. I eat EVERYTHING IN SIGHT! Shim must be having a growth spurt. He supposedly is between 4-4 1/2pounds by now, in theory. His FHT were between 130-140's. He has his head snuggled down in my pelvis, and that makes me happy as a lark. I really didn't want a breech baby, since that takes pretty much all choice away. I've got a lot to get done today before heading to Florence, but just wanted to update really quickly. Have a great weekend!

Our weekend in Buffalo

We had a short but wonderful weekend in Buffalo. Friday night we got in about 6:30pm, and went to dinner with Eric's parents, brothers and sisters. I got to meet my gorgeous nephew Gavin! He is so adorable, and a really good baby. He hardly fusses at all, and it's usually just because he's hungry. I really hope Shim is such a good baby too!

Saturday was the baby shower, and it was an awesome time. We got so many nice things for Shim, and I've been working on getting his nursery all ready for him. Everyone decorated onesies with fabric pens, and I can't wait to put him in them. We had a little get together Saturday night at the Kirsch's, and I got some wings and pizza. The only thing I was missing was the beer. We had brunch at Lindsay's Sunday morning, and left for the airport after the Bills game. It was so much fun to see everyone, since it won't be until after Shim is here that we make it back. It sucks that Eric's family is so far away, but it makes the trips back home all the more special. I've included alot of pics below.

This coming weekend is my grandparents 60th wedding anniversary party, plus two baby showers in Florence. We'll be gone Friday to Sunday again, but this is our last trip. If we make it to Florence for Thanksgiving and Christmas, it'll just be for the day. Look for lots more photos after next weekend.

Buffalo shower

All of his cute clothes! My MIL and Aunt Karen (they are sisters) bought the same outfit while living states away...so funny.

My SIL Lindsay is also cloth diapering, and even sews them! She made me three fitted diapers in bigger sizes, plus two pair of baby legs, and a wetbag with a drawstring. I'm so excited!
A baby book I've already started filling out, plus a scrapbook kit, and a frame to match his nursery.
Organic burp cloths, froggy towel and washcloths, stuffed animal loveys, and a duck that changes color if the bathwater is too hot. The big tan thing in the middle is called a snuggle me, and it fits in the carseat, with slots for the straps to come through. It's made out of lambs wool, and is so snuggly warm.
Our first set of bottles, by Born Free. They are BPA and PVC free. We also got the microwave sterilizer:-) Dianna's mom is a retired teacher from a school for the deaf. She got us the Baby Signs Kit--how appropriate. Now Shim can learn sign language with his cousing Gavin. I didn't even know Dianna was teaching Gavin, and now I'm really excited they'll both be learning baby signs.

The baby Einstein exersaucer; Shim is going to love playing in it.

At the shower with my SIL's Lindsay and Dianna (plus baby Gavin), and cousin Rachel. Rachel has helped all three of us at wedding and baby showers to open stuff and stay organized.
North meets the south!
Gail and Sandy working on their onesies. They are two of my MIL's best friends.
Isn't the cake cute?

Off to Buffalo

Eric and I are heading out of Charlotte tomorrow for a quick weekend trip to Buffalo. We'll get back late Sunday night, so we can both go to work on Monday. It will be a jam packed weekend, but lots of fun. We are going to dinner with all the family tomorrow night, and we finally get to meet our nephew Gavin! I am so excited, and can't wait to take lots of photos of him. On Saturday, my MIL, SIL's, and aunts there are throwing me a baby shower. It's our first one, and I'm so excited. It's so much fun to see all the little tiny clothes that Shim will be wearing in 10 short weeks. I can't believe how fast time is flying. Sat night is more family time, and this time with good ol' Buffalo pizza and wings. I'm salivating already....
Sunday morning is brunch at his sister Lindsay's, and we fly out about 5pm Sunday night. So much to do in so little time. Unfortunately, with a baby on the way--coming back to work is essential. We're trying to save a lot so my maternity leave doesn't put too big a financial stress on our accounts.

I hope to get some pics from the shower up next Monday when I'm back, but we'll see. I have been known to procrastinate!

No more political commercials!

I am so happy the nasty commercials are over! Here in NC, the ones between Elizabeth Dole and Kay Hagan were ruthless and hateful. I'm glad it's all over and finished. I obviously am happy with the results, now I just hope people will come together and support Obama. At least give him a chance to either prove himself, or fail....then hate him if you want to. But I am so sick of hearing people say that they just can't support him, because they are scared of him. What are you scared of? I've started asking people that when I hear them say they are scared. No one has had a good answer yet. Someone at work said they are scared of his wife b/c they think she's an angry black woman. And that has what exactly to do with Obama leading our country? Enough political talk.

Shim is well, he moves ALL the time now. Crazy little man in there. I wonder what on earth he's doing. Taebo again? My next checkup is on next Thursday, with Sage again. I'd like to have a couple more appointments with Jan as well, b/c it's been a while since I've seen her. I've been considering giving a couple of the OB's a chance. Particularly the lady I've seen before (when the midwives were all booked), and the OB that delivered my friend Kim. It would be nice to feel comfortable with a couple of them, in case I end up with them.

Our diapers are all washed, fluffed, and ready to go. I promise to take some pictures soon so you all can see!

It's election time!

Those who know me well already know that I'm traditionally quite liberal. In all actuality, I'm socially liberal and more fiscally conservative. Honestly, the Libertarian party is probably the one most aligned with my thoughts and beliefs. No matter my beliefs, I'm so excited about this presidential election. It truly is a moment in history with a black man and a woman on the ballot. It's about friggin time that there are candidates out there that are inspiring people to vote. I cannot wait to see what the numbers turn out to be, as far as the percentage of Americans voting. Obviously, it's going to be the biggest percentage ever. Early voting (as well as absentee voting) has been hugely popular here in Charlotte. Lines have gotten over 3 hours long. I can only imagine what the lines will be like on Tuesday.

I'm sure that it's no shock that I'll be voting for Obama and Biden. My shirt kinda gives it away. (Thanks Katie!) Their social policies mirror my own beliefs, ranging from Roe vs Wade to gay marriage. I've been more of a fiscal conservative, especially since Eric and I already get killed with taxes. I'm often torn in this area. I think that the policies of Bush, and the last 8 years in Washington, certainly haven't helped our economy. Let's give the other side a chance. Might as well, because the economy doesn't have signs of improving anytime soon.

I think that the economy is honestly so bad right now, that there isn't a person alive who can truly turn it around in the next 4 years. That's one reason I've decided to vote based on more social issues. Obama and Biden will probably be more CRNA friendly as well! That makes me happy!

I just found out today that Obama's last stop before election day will be right here in Charlotte, at 5:30pm tomorrow evening. I work 10-6:30, but REALLY want to call in sick so I can go. How monumental it would be to go to a rally the night before such a historic election! Especially if Obama ends up winning. Enough about my political ramblings.....I just wanted to say how excited I am that Obama will be in Charlotte tomorrow!

Yippee Skippee!

I am so excited!!! It's been a very busy three days since I found out, but my sister in law Bridget IS HAVING A GIRL!!! I finally get to buy some pink. Between Gavin and Shim, it's been nothing but blue for quite a while now. I found a onesie I have to get: it's pink and says "Nobody puts baby in the corner". So adorable! I feel bad for my SIL Lindsay, because she is due two weeks before Bridget, and still doesn't know what her little one is. A crappy and mean ultrasound tech combined with a shy baby didn't bode well. She has another one in two weeks, so I'm crossing all crossables that we'll find out then!

So, Bridget and my brother went for a regular checkup on Thursday, and were supposed to schedule their big anatomy scan then. Well, they scheduled it alright, but also asked to see if there was ANY way they'd also do one that same day. The out of pocket cost was really cheap compared to most OB's offices, and the US tech worked them in. SO many things fell into place, it was just perfect. The tech said she'd been doing this a long time, and was 90-95% sure it was a girl. The big anatomy scan in two weeks will tell for sure.

I have done MAJOR organization in the nursery tonight. The cloth diaper stash is almost ready; I have my bins and baskets all divided for prefolds, covers, and all in ones. I cannot wait to get my changing pad and start making my cleaning solution. I have to decide on a recipe first though. If some or all of what I'm talking about seems foreign, don't worry. I promise to do a nice long blog on cloth diapers sometime soon. No one I know uses them or is familiar with them, except my SIL Lindsay. She is cloth diapering as well, and even making alot of her own. My mom got a new sewing machine, and gave Lindsay her old serger. Bridget and I certainly wouldn't have used it, so I'm glad she gave it to someone who will actually appreciate it.

Shim is well, and moving all the time. He kicked really hard this morning before we got out of bed, and Eric was like "Whoa!". You'd think it would hurt, but it doesn't . I love feeling him move around in there, but I do wonder what he's up to. Cartwheels apparently. I have a ton of Braxton Hicks (AKA toning contractions) these days. I hope it's not an indication that Shim will make an early appearance. At least if he comes now, he'll be just fine. A little NICU stay, but nothing too crazy. It feels really good to be 29 weeks. Well, I'm off for a bedtime snack, and some sleep!

It's about time....

I started organizing in the nursery today. I have a list of things we need to get done this weekend, like a new blind, etc. Our chair from BRU (for the den) is in, so we'll need to borrow a friends truck to go get that. It's so soft and comfortable, I can't wait. I'm washing a bunch of hand-me- downs right now- my friend Jen from work hooked me up. I'm not opening any new stuff past 6 months size. I'm also washing socks, mittens, bibs, and some 0-3 months clothes. I'm trying not to do to much, until our showers. I don't want to open and wash more stuff than he can wear before outgrowing it.

After this load is done, I'm starting on the diapers!!! I'm so excited. I can't wait to get them all ready and organized. Maybe by the end of the weekend, I'll have enough done to take some photos and share. Washing such tiny socks and hats makes me realize that he'll be here before we know it. I can't wait!

Babies Babies everywhere!

My sister in law Lindsay is finding out the sex of her baby right now! I'm so excited to know, and my SIL Bridget is only 2 weeks behind Linds. I think Linds is having a girl, but we'll see very shortly. My mother's instinct was right on for my own Shim, but I don't know if it's accurate for other people's Shim's. The suspense is killing me........

Okay, you won't believe this, but the little one would NOT uncross it's legs. Oh the stubborness!

We'll just have to wait to know until they go for a 3/4d, and hope it's not so shy then.

28 weeks and 3 days appointment

What a productive morning I had! It started off at my checkup, drinking the orange drink for my glucose tolerance test. After I drank that, I had my appointment with Sage. My belly measured 28 cm exactly, so that's right on target. His FHT were 148, also on target. Want to know the best news EVER??? He's head down! I suspected as much since I always feel kicks above my belly button, but wanted confirmation. No ultrasound; if you have an experienced provider, they can usually tell by feel. Of course that isn't as accurate as US, but it works for me. I hope to not have any more ultrasounds if all goes well. The other fabulous piece of info from my visit is that I've only gained 11 pounds! Doesn't seem right since my belly is so big, but Sage said that's normal since I'm a small framed person. She said I'm simply all baby, and to enjoy it! They will call me tomorrow if anything is off in my bloodwork, otherwise I go back in 2 weeks. I thought those every two weeks visits started at 32 weeks, but I was wrong. I see Sage again next time. I asked about the lack of midwife coverage on weekends, since I was none to happy when my friend Kim informed me there's not always one on call. Turns out they have a fifth midwife starting in December, and after that there will be 36 hours each weekend where there isn't a midwife on call. So, here's hoping for a weekday baby! Or that I get the OB my friend Kim had at her delivery, and was very happy with. I think that pretty much sums up that appt.

My next appt today was at a pediatrician's office to check it out. I met with the practice manager for about 30 minutes, and then we walked around to show me the office. I met 4 of the doctors while touring, and all were super nice. There was once whos' personality I really liked alot. There are 7 docs total, and 2 PNP's. There is a 24/7 nurse line for minor questions and issues, and always a doc on call. Plus they have 1-2 doctors each day without scheduled appointments; they only see same day sick pts. In general, the practice is provaccination, and conservative with antibiotics. They like to follow the AAP's vaccination schedule, but are open to selective and delayed vac's within reason. And since Shim will be in daycare two days a week, he's going to be required to have his vac's anyways. I will still delay as much as possible, and probably claim religious beliefs in order to delay all Hepatitis. I think between 4-5 years is plenty of time to get all the Hepatitis vaccines. I am also very antibiotic conservative, so that meshes well with the practice beliefs. The office is also open on Saturdays from 9-1 to see sick kiddos. I really liked the practice, and we'll probably go with them. I just need to tell Eric all about it, and get his agreement.

As I was parking at the appt for the pediatrician's appt, I noticed a sign for Clark Pediatric Dentistry. As in Jason Clark, whom I work with from time to time, putting spoiled & horribly misbehaved kids to sleep for dental work. He is great with kids and parents, and really nice to the staff as well. Fortunately for us the two offices are side by side-SWEET! I didn't expect to get two birds with one stone.

So, after that I proceeded on to the daycare I liked so much last week. I showed up unannounced and asked for a second tour. It was just as nice as before, with the exception that it wasn't naptime today. Less sleeping, and more crying going on. I don't love that Shim won't always be immediately tended to when crying. But, I know that in the long run it will be good for him. Being with mommy and daddy 4-5 days a week is still plenty of time to be completely spoiled.

One last thing to add-----WHY DID I QUIT GOING TO WALMART? I love me some Target, and always go there. But today I had time to kill between appts, and ran into Walmart to browse. I found two adorable dresses. They aren't maternity, but can be worn as such. I'm super pumped to be pregnant during a time when big and flowing dresses/tops are so popular. I got both dresses, one cute cardigan like sweater, and a candle--all for $60! I'm so going back to shopping at Walmart. I forgot how great that place can be. And the sooner I cut expenses and pay off debt, the sooner I can be a SAHM!

28 weeks and 2 days

So, my 28 week appointment is tomorrow, and I'm quite excited to see Sage again. I'm anxious to give her another chance, since she irritated me with the epidural comment when we met before. As always, I have my list of questions to ask. I hate forgetting things, so going in with a list works well for me. I've done that since the very first appointment. I can't wait to see what position she thinks he's in. Send me head down vibes!!! I'll be sure to update everyone tomorrow evening after the appt.

I also have an appt tomorrow at 11am to tour a pediatrician's office. I'll sit down with the office manager for an overview of how their office works, then take a tour. She said she'll introduce me to as many of the doctors and PNP's (pediatric nurse practitioners) as possible on our tour. The main issues for me are their thoughts on vaccinations and antibiotics. We'll see if we mesh well. Hopefully Eric can come too, but he's not sure of his work schedule yet.

I've included pics below of my gorgeous nursery bedding. My mom handmade every piece of it--can you believe that? She is one talented seamstress! I chose black, white, and red because it's gender neutral. It turned out very modern and elegant. Not babyish at all, which was another goal. The bumper and quilt have this amazing fabric called "snuggli", and it is so soft. I want it on my bed to be honest with you. As far as the fabrics, my Mom and I spent about 2 hours in this HUGE fabric store (Mary Jo's) a couple of months ago, picking it all out. I cannot wait to order and get our crib, so we can really start to put the nursery together. Then I'll really feel like we are ready. I can't believe that he will be here in less than 3 months. I'm nervous but so excited!

Nursery photos

The 28 week belly. I'm still enjoying it, but once my face and arms get fat, I won't be happy about it. So much to look forward to in the next three months!

The is the drape for the nursery. It's a Roman shade, that is tied up by the red ribbons hanging down.
The crib bumper--it is SO soft!
The crib skirt; so cute.
The handmade quilt. We'll probably leave it draped over the back of the rocking chair until Shim gets old enough to have a blanket.

What is Hypnobabies?

HB is the childbirth preparation course I chose after much research. It is a program in the way that Lamaze or Bradley is, if you are familiar. It's not something taught at a hospital on a Saturday afternoon. It can be done in a class with other couples and an instructor, or as homestudy. We are doing homestudy b/c it's so much cheaper. Plus our doula teaches it, so we have her as an ever ready resource person. Since most people I know have never heard of it, here is a nice overview straight from the official website, www.hypnobabies.com

Here at Hypnobabies, our Mission is very clear:

Hypnobabies exists, and all of our staff and Instructors work diligently every day, for the following ideals :
--To help every expectant mother prepare for her baby's birth in a way that helps her fully enjoy the rest of her pregnancy in health and peace, so that she eagerly looks forward to her birthing day.
--To help every expectant mother have the easiest, safest and most comfortable childbirth experience she can, allowing her to fully enjoy her birthing, and pass that legacy along to her children, friends and family.
--To educate and support all Birth Partners, so that they too can look forward to and enjoy the birth of their child with confidence, retaining the memory of childbirth as a beautiful, inspiring life event.
--To help babies be born as gently and safely as possible, so that their entrance into our world can be one of joy and wonder, quiet and peace.
--To support our Hypno-Moms, no matter what their choices are, before, during and after their babies are born. Every mother counts; every pre-nate is loved; every birth is a gift.
--To educate the medical community on the benefits of natural childbirth, how to work with couples who have chosen this wonderful way to give birth, and to respect each birthing woman's choices as she comes to them for prenatal care and birthing assistance.
--To educate the natural childbirth community on the special needs and desires of Hypnobabies birthing couples, towards an easier and more enjoyable experience for all.




Why choose a natural, easier birth using Hynobabies? The benefits are many:


● The Hypno-mom will use fewer drugs or no drugs, which means less risk of side effects for mother and baby, due to elimination of the Fear/Tension/Pain Syndrome, and using post-hypnotic suggestions.

● Most Hypno-mothers have shorter labors since there is less resistance of the birthing muscles when pain and fear are minimized or eliminated.

● The birthing woman generally has much more energy throughout first and second stage, due to a total relaxation throughout the birthing process.

● The birthing environment is much more calm and peaceful when the natural childbirth mother is comfortable.

● Breech and posterior babies can be turned using hypnosis.

● Blood pressure, heart rate, and temperature can be lowered and nausea, back and hip pain eliminated with hypnosis during pregnancy and labor.

● There are fewer interventions for failure to progress and therefore fewer fetal and maternal complications during labor.

● The deep relaxation in Hypnobabies sessions has also helped many a nervous birth partner to enjoy their partner's pregnancy and childbirth, and the skills that the Hypno-couple learns for relaxation and hypnosis will benefit them for the rest of their lives.

● Our Hyno-couples are "deprogrammed" from the usual negativity of childbirth stories and scenarios they've always heard, by way of training in Hypnobabies classes and audio CDs which have positive messages and hypnotic suggestions. This automatically allows for a positive attitude and much more confidence in birthing.

So there you have it, an introduction to hypnobabies. If anyone has questions, I'll be happy to try to answer as to why I'm enjoying the program.
If anyone wants to question my intentions, or tell me I'm crazy, or put down the program and/or my birthing goals, then your comment will be deleted. Negativity is not part of my thinking when it comes to my pregnancy or birthing, so don't present me with any of it. Thanks!

Yippee Yay!

So, there are two things that I'm really happy about right now. I've decided to share :-)

First, my friend Kim from work had her baby last weekend. We use the same midwives/OB group. She also delivered at the same place I will be. Keep in mind this is not the hospital we work at, so I don't know all the inside nitty gritty. (Knowing what I do about where I work is what made me change!) Anyhow, CMC Pineville is the hospital, and Kim just had an amazing experience there! We have alot of the same goals for labor and delivery, and I'm happy to say that Kim met all of her goals!!! She said the hospital, nurses, midwives, and OB were all beyond her expectations. She introduced the OB to his first squatting delivery. You go girl!!! So you may be wondering why she had an OB instead of the one of the midwives.

This new little piece of info honestly has me quite pissed off. It turns out there is not a midwife on call 24/7. Apparently there are some weekend nights where only an OB is there. I DON'T WANT ONE!!! And why am I just finding out at 28 weeks that this is the way it is? I am happy to say that Kim loved the OB and had nothing but glowing things to say. He was extremely supportive of her intervention free birth, and essentially was just there to help her catch her own baby. Yep- you heard me right. The doctor helped HER deliver her own baby. That's normal for a midwife, but not an OB. It makes me feel really good to know that even the OB's in my group are on my wavelength. I just hope and pray that I end up with a good one if I can't have one of my midwives. With all I've heard about the practice lately, I'm feeling really confident about my future birthing. As it turns out, one of the recovery nurses at work delivered a few months ago, with the midwife who I initally didn't like. CMC Pineville as well, and she also had nothing but good things to say also. She loved the midwife, honestly just raved about her. She was apparently very encouraging of her intervention free birth.

Hearing positive things helps my positive thinking, which is a big part of my hypnobabies. Look for more on that later....

So the second really fabulous thing that I'm so excited about occurred today. Since we discovered Shim, one of our friends Moms has said she'd nanny for us. But when it came down to it, it was really wasn't something she was interested in. Nanny placement agencies cost between $900-1600 in Charlotte, just to find a nanny. That's not the nanny's pay, which runs between $10-15 an hour. In an effort to make sure we researched all of our options thoroughly, I decided to look into preschools and daycares. I went and visited two on Tuesday. The first made me cry. I'm not even joking. I'd go work at Burger King for extra cash before sending Shim to a place like that. I was so sad, b/c it was supposedly a really good one. I was devastated thinking that if it was "good" for Charlotte, I'd never find one that I thought was acceptable. The second place was VERY nice, I really liked it alot. However there were two issues. First, he would have to go 5 days a week. (B/c I work long shifts, we only need childcare 2-3 days a week). I just can't stand the idea of paying for 5 days when we don't need that. The second problem was that they won't accept cloth diapers. That's a dealbreaker for me, although Eric really doesn't care. He thinks that sposies 2 days a week is just fine, but I think it defeats the purpose. So, long story short, Tuesday sucked. I spent yesterday resuming my nanny search.

Well, today I got off at 12, and had an appointment to see a third preschool at 1pm. I seriously almost skipped it in favor of a nap. But I decided to go, and it was the best decision EVER! This place was just fabulous. Everything about it. I had such a good feeling and vibe from everyone there. The workers looked like people I'd be friends with, and the kiddos all seemed so happy. They prefer you have an appt to come by, so they can guarantee you a full tour. But, you are welcome to drop by any day and time without notifying them, to assure yourself they aren't "putting on a show". I'm going to go back next Monday about the same time of day, unannounced. If I still like what I see, then I'm going to put down the deposit to get Shim on the wait list. He can go just Tues/Thurs, which works lovely for our family. And you wanna know the cool thing? THEY TAKE CLOTH DIAPERS! Which I'm sure you assumed since I liked the place. They don't have anyone at this particular location who CD's, but apparently someone at the Ballantyne location does.

Enough for now, but I just wanted to share the two things that I'm really happy about right now. I'm gonna go hunt for some hypnobabies info to share....

Circumcision

For clarifications sake, there are a couple of things I want to add and/or repeat. I do not judge or fault others who choose to circumsize their little guys. It's not what I want for Shim, but that does not mean I think others are wrong in choosing it for their family.

I do not think current day male circumcision is the same as the female genital mutilation occuring in Africa. My previous blog should have been a little more clear on that. What I was attempting to say is that I am curious if people thousands of years ago were initially horrified by male circumcision, as we are horrified today by female circumcision.

And lastly, to all who like to throw in my face....."But he'll get picked on in the locker room" rebuttal. Go back and reread the little factoid about only 50-60% of boys being circumsized in the US currently. So, that means, he'll look exactly the same as 40-50% of the other guys in the locker room. Do the math, it's not a locker room issue. If that is the only reason someone has to circumsize their child, then nothing I say will make them ever consider otherwise.

Asheville weekend

So, I was 30 last Thursday, and Eric is 32 today. It's actually a lot of fun having birthdays only 4 days apart. I don't mind sharing some of the attention, even as much as I LOVE my birthday. Eric's parents came into town last Thursday from Buffalo, and are heading out in the am. My parents came last Thursday just for the day, and we all 6 went to dinner that night. I love this spanish place named Sole, and we went for a fabulous dinner. I had my honorary glass of Sangria, even though I wanted the entire pitcher (or two). On Friday we left for Asheville, which is this fabulous little granola mountain town. For those who aren't familiar, it's an unbelievably hippie town perched in the western NC mountains. It's also the location of the Biltmore house, which is the largest privately owned home in the US. It really is something amazing to see if you've never been. We went and took Eric's parents, since they'd never been. It was beautiful with the leaves changing colors. It was a nice birthday weekend, despite all the Braxton Hicks from walking so much. I can only imagine how different next years birthdays will be having our little man with us. We'll be lucky to celebrate at all probably! Time will be spent planning Shim's first birthday instead. :-)

Asheville pics

Biltmore

Biltmore

I even look preggo all bundled up. This is in the gardens at Biltmore.

Me and my sweetie

Eric's parents at Biltmore

NYC trip

Well, I've been back from New York City for a week now, and I'm finally making some time to blog. I've realized lately that unless I make time for myself, no one else will. I've got to look out for me, to stay in the best mental and physical health possible for the little Shimmeister. I've just been going so much lately, that I've absolutely worn myself out. I'm overdue for some "Nikki time". It's noone's fault but my own (for overscheduling).

Anyhow, NYC was fun and interesting to see. I really wasn't impressed to be honest. I've done enough traveling to large cities that it was very anticlimactic. I will say that I loved the shopping on Canal Street, down in Chinatown. I could've spent much more money there than what I did, given limitless amounts of cash. The boat ride out the the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island was a lot of fun. I was very disappointed that there wasn't even a lookout over the old Twin Towers Site. I got some shots of cranes, and that was about it. One of my favorite things was dinner at Beni Hana(Japanese Hibachi), probably b/c I was so hungry that night. There was lots of walking, and I'm honestly kinda over that as I enter my third trimester. Some walking is great and healthy, but after Europe and NYC, I'm done! We went and saw Mamma Mia on Broadway, which was well worth it. I want to see Lion King next time I go though. That sums up the trip as a whole, and I've got to get going. My inlaws are in town, so I'm going to go hang out some more, and visit with them.

NYC pictures

The horse pulling the carriage had really sad eyes. I just wanted to rescue him and set him free in some huge field.

My Mom and I at Top of the Rock (Rockefeller Center).
Me and my cousins after our carriage ride through some of Central Park.
On the cruise out to the Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island.
Me with my SIL, cousins, and my SIL BFF.
Beautiful candles in St. Patrick's Cathedral.

Big 3-0

That's right, it's my birthday. Entering a whole new decade. We've got Eric's parents in town for a few days, so it'll probably be awhile before I truly blog again. I love my birthday, it's the only day the whole year where it's truly all about me. It's just fabulous! Although I never planned to be pregnant on my 30th! I promise to show some NYC pics, and Asheville pics when I get back to blogging. We are going to Asheville tomorrow for the night. I found I miss blogging when I can't find the time for it. I'll be back!

IT'S HERE!!!

OMG- MY HYPNOBABIES MATERIAL IS IN!!!  

I am so excited, I don't even know where to start.  I'm gonna download the first couple of CD's to my ipod tonight, so I can start to listen while traveling.  And of course, I'm taking my brand new book/manual for reading material on the plane.  I cannot wait to get started, I just hope Eric will get into it too.  We'll see...

New York City

Well, I leave for NYC Wednesday morning, and I'm mostly packed. Took care of that necessary evil this evening. I'm going with my mom, SIL, cousins, aunts, and a bunch of family friends. All women, no men allowed! Most of us have never been to NYC before. It's a city I've always wanted to visit, but probably just once. We'll see how I feel after this trip, I may want to go back yearly. Who knows! I'm happy not to be the only preggo on the trip. I may have a cohort if an afternoon nap becomes a necessity. I'm really excited to take pictures there- lots of prime photo ops. I'll post them all when I get home at gallery.mac.com/winternichole. So, in any case you won't be hearing from me for the next 5-6 days or so. I'm sure you'll miss me. I promise to come back. I'll probably even have a new soapbox. My hypnobabies materials should arrive tomorrow, so it'll probably be about that:-)

So as it turns out....

I'm not the only pregnant one in my family! I'm not sure how much I've posted about this (if at all), but now I can totally spill the beans! So, I have 3 sister-in-laws. (SIL) I have one brother,Davy, and he is married to Bridget. They live in South Cackalackey with the rest of the fam. Eric has one brother, Joe, who is married to Dianna. They live in Rochester, home of Dinosaur BBQ with the BEST ribs ever!!! And last but not least, Eric has one sister named Lindsay, who is married to Brian, and they live in Buffalo. Pretty much the rest of his family is all in Buffalo. So, for a period of time in July/August, me and all four of my SIL's were ALL PREGNANT TOGETHER!!! It was so much fun, but I couldn't talk about it with anybody. Linds and Bridget were still in the closet since they were so early in their pregnancies. Dianna had Gavin September 1st, our first new family member. And he is pretty darn handsome (yes I'm biased), and we can't wait to meet him! If I get Dianna's permission, I'll show you some photos of just how cute he is after our trip in November.

Now we are down to three preggos, and it's still pretty amazing and overwhelming. I'm so thankful that we are all blessed to not have major fertility issues. Infertility is a painful and expensive thing, and I know we are lucky to not be fighting that battle. Linds is due April 2nd, and Bridget is due April 16th! Talk about a busy April schedule! I also go back to work in April, so heaven knows how it will all work out. Luckily their baby showers will be while I'm on maternity leave. Eric and I still aren't sure if we'll make it to Lindsay's shower, mainly because I'm not taking such a young baby on an airplane (with recirculated air) during flu/RSV season. We'll wait and see how it all works out. We'll drive to Florence for Bridget's shower, but I'm taking sanitizing foam from work for people to use before they touch Shim. Yes, I'm a psychotic, over protective mother already- and he's not even here. :-)

Anyhow, I just felt like telling the world how excited I am to be sharing such a wonderful experience with three very special SIL's. We can all share and complain to one another...

It is so great to think about how much fun Shim will have growing up with his cousins. We can't wait for summers at the cottage in Canada, and trips to SC beaches and lakes. It will be such a blast! Now the question remains, will Gavin and Shim have more boys to join them, or will there be a girl in the mist??? Stay tuned in 4-6 more weeks for that update!

24 weeks and 4 days, and Circumcision

Today I had my monthly checkup, and it was with Tina. This was the third time I've seen her, and I like her more each time. I would be really happy if she is the one on call when Shim arrives. Shim's FHT were in the 140's, so that is right on target. She felt my belly and listened to him, and said everything looks great. And she even told me I look cute, so I was thrilled. I'm just not feeling all that cute these days. Other preggos look cute to me, but I'm just starting to feel uncomfortable. I have this allergy and cough thing going on, which I get twice a year when the seasons/temps change. Tina told me to take some Zyrtec and Mucinex with plenty of water. Hopefully this will improve soon, because it's making sleeping very difficult.

Tina asked today if we were going to be circumsizing little Shim. Eric and I have talked about it a great deal, and are leaning towards definitely not doing it. When I told Tina that, her response was that our decision goes right along with what AAP recommends. (American Academy of Pediatrics). In any case, here is some info on circumcisions.

From www.circumcision.org
Response to American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP)
Circumcision Policy Statement

SIGNS OF PROGRESS
The statement takes a position of not recommending circumcision. Consistent with all previous AAP reports, no proven, actual benefits for circumcision are found. The claims of potential medical benefits are discussed in more detail that the last report (1989) and shown to be insignificant. The debate about medical benefits is over.

The report recognizes the extreme pain and trauma caused by circumcision as evidenced by large increases in heart rate, blood pressure, and stress hormone levels during circumcision. The AAP notes that according to a recent study, circumcised infants exhibit a stronger pain response to vaccination at six months than uncircumcised infants, demonstrating that the effects of circumcision are not short-lived. By calling for pain medication, in the form of injection into the infant’s penis, the AAP acknowledges that this extreme pain and trauma of circumcision are serious.

The AAP statement acknowledges that the foreskin contains "a concentration of specialized sensory cells" and reports that "penile sensation and sexual satisfaction are decreased for circumcised males."

The statement references a report that circumcised men are more likely to engage in various sexual practices such as masturbation and heterosexual oral sex. This finding suggests that without a foreskin to contribute to sexual pleasure, circumcised men seek alternative forms of stimulation to compensate for their loss.

The report identifies 20 different possible circumcision complications. The 1989 report only mentioned bleeding, infection, and death as possible complications.

It warns physicians that parents should not be coerced by medical professionals to choose circumcision, suggesting that some medical professionals have coerced parents to choose circumcision. In fact, some infants have been circumcised even though parents explicitly requested no circumcision.

As in previous reports, hygiene is not an issue. According to the report, "there is little evidence to affirm the association between circumcision status and optimal penile hygiene.


And from www.kidshealth.org
Approximately 55% to 65% of all newborn boys are circumcised in the United States each year, though this rate varies by region (western states have the lowest rates and the north central region has the highest). The procedure is much more widespread in the United States, Canada, and the Middle East than in Asia, South America, Central America, and most of Europe, where it's uncommon.

Parents who choose circumcision often do so based on religious beliefs, concerns about hygiene, or cultural or social reasons, such as the wish to have their son look like other men in the family.
Despite the possible benefits and risks, circumcision is neither essential nor detrimental to a boy's health. The AAP and the American Academy of Family Physicians (AAFP) do not endorse the procedure as a way to prevent any of the medical conditions mentioned previously. The AAP also does not find sufficient evidence to medically recommend circumcision or argue against it.

That's just a little information and intro, and there is tons more out there. I've done alot of reading; enough to make up my mind. But, I'm not the one with a penis, so I'm letting Eric have a great deal of input with this decision. We are not Jewish or Islamic, so we have no relegious basis for doing it. Only about half of baby boys are circumsized these days, so the whole argument of "Don't you want him to look like everyone else in the locker room?" doesn't fly. By the time he's in a locker room, I'm hoping it'll be about half and half between the boys are are and aren't. As far as medical reasons, the benefits are so small percentage wise. So are the risks. It really just comes down to a personal decision.

In my research I learned that the reason circumcision was started thousands of years ago was to decrease the sensitivity of the penis, thereby deterring masturbation. Well, it didn't work, but the practice caught on and became prevalent. Well, now in Africa female circumcision is being forced on women to decrease their sexual pleasure, and called "genital mutilation". The rest of the world is horrified, and trying to find ways to stop it. Where was the horror when we started doing this to baby boys who didn't have a say so?

Well, enough of my soapbox of the day. Eric and I haven't made a final decision, but it should be pretty obvious which way I lean. Medicaid no longer pays for circumcision. Other insurances are stopping reimbursement. And when a peds urologist I work with straight up told me the reason it's still so popular is b/c of money to be made, my mind was made up. He says that as soon as all insurances stop reimbursement, you will be hard pressed to find ANY doctor who will do it, without out of pocket payment up front. Makes you wonder doesn't it?

Okay, I'm really done now. Circumcision soapbox over.

And can I just say that I REALLY like having a blog where I can just go on and on about whatever I'm passionate about at the moment!!! And if someone doesn't like it, they can leave a nasty comment, and I CAN DELETE IT! This is truly fabulous. I can't believe it's taken me this long in life to discover the beauty of blogging. My JM friend Angela is the first member of my entourage. I expect the paparazzi to show up any moment now. Gotta go freshen up my lipstick :-)

I am in such shock, but in a good way

So, as it turns out I am famous. A superstar known to many. Okay, maybe just a few. I honestly thought that my Mom, MIL, and grandma were the only ones who read this thing. Plus a couple of friends. So, much to my surprise, I found out there are others. My friend Angela from the message boards at www.justmommies.com posted this morning that my little blog has been recognized on someone else's blog. Someone who actually has FOLLOWERS. Someone who's blog is so popular it's worthy of advertisements. Someone who's blog I've actually been to and read. And she thought that a post I wrote about midwives was actually worthy of mentioning and linking in one of her posts. I am totally in shock!

So, I know that now you all wanna run over there and read all about it. You can find it at www.crunchydomesticgoddess.com. My blog is mentioned in the article about midwives. You can go see how famous my little blog is. This has totally inspired me to keep on blogging, especially about things that may inspire or educate others. You never know when something you say may get through to someone. I'm so excited- did I say that yet?

One more thing...

Just want to add that I am by no means an expert or even close to it. And if my blogging makes you think a little, don't take my word for it--do your own research! The internet is a fabulous thing!

Plastic and toys

So, over time I hope to make many blog posts that better explain why I make some of my parenting decisions. I don't necessarily feel the need to explain myself or justify my decisions, but rather would like to help our family and friends understand us bit better. Me, rather. Eric just goes along with whatever I think, for the most part. As long as I have a good rationale with research to back it up, he's usually okay with it.

Now for a few disclaimers. Just because I do research and make a decision that I feel is best, doesn't mean I expect everyone and anyone to agree. It also does not mean that I think other parents who make opposite decisions are making bad ones. Every parent makes choices that are right for them, and I am the last one that should be judging that. I also don't care to hear how your child did such and such (that is opposite from our way), and turned out just fine. That's great, but I just assume someone support us rather than question us. Disclaimers over...

Now, onto the plastic issue, the topic of tonight. There are two things in alot of plastics that I've become aware of through research, and would prefer to avoid. One is BPA(bisphenol A), the other PVC (polyvinlychloride). I've chosen bottles to use that don't have either, and silicone pacifier's as well. Another big thing with these two ingredients is toys. Considering that most babies until 18 months or so are always chewing on a toy, this is one of the big things for me. Making the attempt to keep wooden chew toys around, rather than plastic ones, is one small effort I can make. Unfortunately, they are very hard to find in regular stores like Target and the such. Thankfully, the internet is full of sites for these toys. HABA is one of the biggest name brands. The countries of the European Union made PVC illegal in their toys almost ten years ago---Why is the US always behind??? It really frustrates me. Here is some info from the net:

General tips for toy buying:
General Tips on Buying Safer Products for Kids

Buy less! The easiest way to avoid toys with toxic chemicals is to buy less! For some tips on reducing gift buying, see: "Simplify the Holidays".

Avoid toys that list vinyl or PVC as an ingredient (#3 plastic). Soft plastic toys like bath toys, squeeze toys, and dolls are commonly made of vinyl. If you're not sure if a toy contains vinyl or PVC try looking it up in our database. If you see high levels of chlorine, it is likely that the product contains PVC. If the product you are curious about is not in our database, ask the manufacturer or consider an alternative product.
Steer clear of vinyl lunch boxes; choose cloth lunch bags instead.
Choose uncoated cotton bibs instead of vinyl bibs, or choose bibs made of non-PVC plastic.
Avoid diaper covers, rain gear, and backpacks made of vinyl (PVC).
Choose mattresses made of wool, cotton, or natural latex that don't have vinyl covers.
Choose wool changing pads or portable fabric changing pads that do not have vinyl linings.
For a guide to safer plastics, see: http://www.iatp.org/ foodandhealth/
When possible choose plastic-free toys such as fabric teethers, unpainted wooden toys or cloth and plush toys. Polycarbonate plastic (#7 plastic) should also be avoided. For a guide to safer plastics, see: http://www.iatp.org/ foodandhealth/

Avoid children's metal jewelry and toys with small pieces, particularly magnetic pieces. For more information, see CDC's website on lead in jewelry

Check recall lists regularly, and if a toy has been recalled, send it back to the manufacturer. To receive email recall alerts from U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission

Take action! We can't just purchase our way out of this problem. We need Government and industry to make our products safer!

And some info on PVC/BPA specifically:
From IV tubing to baby bottles, though, plastics are under attack.

The truth is that some plastics are better than others, both for the environment and for our health. For those interested, look at the bottom of most household items made of plastic. There's a number in a triangular shape, usually 1 through 7. According to The Green Guide, avoid #3, 6 and 7; #1 and 2 are considered safer. Why? Well, not all plastics are created equally. We are learning more and more each day about the health detriments of plastic exposure.

The dangers of polyvinyl chloride (PVC) have been known for some time. Phthalates, the "plasticizer" in PVC, has been linked to asthma and other allergic disorders as well as endocrine disruption; PVC's are suspected carcinogens, too. Fortunately, Health Care Without Harm, the environmental supergroup, has been working with the health care industry to remove harmful PVC's from products like IV tubing.

Bisphenol-A (BPA), a component of #7 plastics, is the subject of most recent concern for environmental health advocates. Found in most baby bottles and canned formula, BPA has been linked to several health disorders. A Federal investigative panel concluded recently that exposure to BPA has effects on neurobehavioral and endocrine development both in utero and after birth, in infants and children. The panel's report has been widely criticized as being not harsh enough, using terms like "some concern" or "minimal concern" for the above health effects. To me, again, it comes down to whether or not you believe in the precautionary principle. If you can't assure safety within a reasonable degree, avoid use. But alas, the plastics industries do not embrace the principle, and our federal government seems more interested in the bottom line than in our children's health.

Because of all the above info and research I've read, I decided to make what small choices I can to protect Shim from this stuff. First thing was registering for Born Free bottles. I may also register for some Dr. Browns, I've heard they have a safe version. I am most obviously not the only mother on this bandwagon, and discovered that at Babies R Us (BRU). When I asked a question at the help/registry desk about a particular pacifier and PVC number, they pulled out a sheet from under the desk. It contained every product in the store considered to be BPA/ PVC "safe". I was shocked and quite impressed. Now, I do just want to say that I am realistic. I know that babies put anything and everything in their mouths. Yes, I know that Shim will chew on his fair share of plastic toys. But if I have wooden rattles/chew toys laying around to substitute for the plastic ones, it will make me feel better. As I see it, every little bit helps.

Here are some websites for wooden toys for anyone interested in how cute they can be:
www.childtrek.com
www.planethappytoys.com
www.oompa.com

So now I've blogged about midwives, doulas, and the whole plastic/wooden toy thing. I still want to blog about hypnobabies, breastfeeding, cloth diapers, organic products, vaccinations, and quite a few more I can't think of right this second. If you haven't figured it out yet, I've become quite granola and crunchy. I haven't always been this way. It kinda started when I moved to Charlotte, which is funny b/c this isn't generally a granola city. I mean, it's not Asheville by any means. But I sure do think I'd fit in just fine there. Or Seattle. (Hi Carmie!) Being pregnant has really amped up my crunchiness. Eric isn't by any means, other than recycling. He just mostly goes along with whatever I choose, within reason. Since he is also in the medical field, supplying him with research goes a long way. Okay, that's quite enough of my random ramblings for tonight. Hope your Sunday is a great one!